@mbkriegh okay. Just to give you an idea of where I am, the part of your post that talked about your friend wanting to create a lesbian-exclusive community resonated with me, except I caught myself briefly invisioning a nonbinary-exclusive community. Not making serious plans or anything, but there it was.

I also tend not to correct people even though it appears for people in my age group and younger that it's an expectation that we do so and noisily. Except I'm also chronically ill and blind and already have enough to worry about without correcting people's thought patterns. I'm 36 for context.